Risky Business

Risky Business

Do you remember the advice Miles gives to Joel in the classic 80s film Risky Business?  Joel’s parents had just left town leaving him alone for a week, and Miles is encouraging him to make some changes: “Sometimes, Joel, you just gotta say, what the fuck.”  In my own, small way, this has become a New Year’s resolution of mine, and I can say so far so good.

A couple of days each week I work at a large, socially progressive research university.  The days I am on campus I like to swim laps for exercise. I’ve been doing this for years.  And for years, the days I am going to undress in the locker room in front of other men, I have always chosen to wear my “normal” underwear.  In 2020, however, I’ve decided to say what the fuck and show my true colors.

After my swim and shower, when I get dressed I put on my favorite undies – satin bikinis, thongs, and even lace.  And you know what? I no longer care if people see me wearing them. I was always shy about showing these kinds of things.  In my last relationship, my partner made me feel there was something wrong with me for being into underwear, especially the designs I like most.  I have a different partner now, and she digs my love of underwear. Her approval, I think, has given me the desire to flaunt the things I really like to wear.

I also decided, what’s the worst that can happen?  Somebody might say something to me? Unlikely, but ultimately I now understand that this would reveal more about them than me.

I started tepidly, and would quickly put my pants on after pulling on my thong.  After a couple of months, I now take my time. I am sure it comes as no surprise that no one has said a thing to me.  I have gotten a couple of double-takes, mostly from older men and on days I wore satin undies, bikinis that many would identify as panties.

I like who I am, and as strange as it might sound to many, underwear is part of how I express and define myself.  That’s why this year I’ve decided to say what the fuck, and not be ashamed of who sees me in the things I like to wear.  If you haven’t taken this kind of step, if you are like the older me that was shy and ashamed of liking to wear, I’d like to encourage you to think otherwise, and not to be shy or afraid about showing these “unconventional” things you like to wear. 

Be who you are! If anyone isn't interested in that than you know you don’t need them in your life. I mean, what the fuck?

Signing off!


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I’ve never had the courage to wear my BA underwear or women’s panties in public. I’ve worn a super short spandex trunk bathing suit on a cruise ship balcony. I was so nervous, but my wife loved it. I’ve suggested that I’d like to wear a speedo at an all inclusive, and she is supportive. I grew up super religious and that has messed me up. I want to wear thongs and lace to the gym, but I’m nervous about someone from work seeing me. I have a. Trip coming up and I plan to go to the gym and wear skimpy lace as a test drive! I’m actually hoping that I get looks from other guys. Truth is, I thought my wife would have a problem with me wearing my BA underwear, but she loves them (just not the lace). She wants me to order more skimpy styles to wear around the house! Thank you BA for helping me inch my way out of my shell.


Agreed, I wear a thong and shake my butt and sometimes smack that as well.


I have worn womens panties for years. I started wearing my wifes all the time. Then when we were really drunk I came out in her Lulu Lemon thong. She liked it that night. The next week, she realized I had been wearing and taking all her panties. She yelled at me and said I stretched some out also. I work out daily and I am very skinny, her panties fit me perfect. One night on vacation with friends, I passed out wasted in our bed. Only in her thong. She took pictures and sent to me. She then began to insult me for it. I bought my own panties. I wore them all the time. I love wearing womens yoga pants and panties. I love having panty lines and the thong up my ass. It is so sexy on women. I have two girlfriends now who have taken videos of my ass walking in yoga pants. My ass in panties. I wear their panties all the time and send them pics


I agree wear what you want, and if anybody says anything, just ignore them, and remember it’s there attitude not yours .Actually I enjoy stripping down to my thong in the locker room. It makes me feel so sexy and feminine. And I know a lot of cute guys are looking at me. And yes I’m gay.


Poolside I am still a bit less confident wearing a thong or G-String. I prefer the Speedo trunk for some reason or the Patriot Swim Trunk by Body Aware. I don’t know why the pool or beach makes me feel less confident to show off as in other areas of my life, like the gym, I have no issues wearing Body Aware or even wearing women’s panties. Although this blog is inspiring to risk a little more and to be more confident by the pool or beach! Will be working up the courage! Wish me luck!


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