I bought my first thong about 10 years ago, and it was kind of an ordeal for me. I was thrilled and excited to try it out but also felt very anxious and self-conscious about it at the same time. To complicate the whole thing, even more, my partner at the time did not share my enthusiasm, and really just made me feel foolish and embarrassed. The whole experience left me conflicted, both curious and shamed.
Well, a whole lot has changed since then. First and most importantly, I have a new partner now, and she loves to see me in thongs. But more than just that, the industry and culture have changed. While at one-time mostly just a novelty item in adult stores, thongs for men are now produced by high-end fashion designers. And while perhaps still really just for the more adventurous, the prevalence of them on the market is a clear indication of broader acceptance. So, I sometimes ask myself, what’s the big deal about it all? Why did/does this kind of underwear solicit so much curiosity from me, and such strong and divisive responses from people around our culture? I decided to do a little digging into it, to see if I could learn a little more about it all.
A quick google search shows that my question and interest in the subject is not at all unique. There are posts online trying to document the history of men wearing thongs – offering evidence of ancient Greeks and other cultures wearing them – as justification for wearing them today. There is no shortage of YouTube videos in which men and women discuss the pros and cons of seeing men in thongs, and you can even find podcasts in which men talk about what they like about them.
Having looked at all of this kind of stuff, and as someone who has been wearing thongs for about 10 years now, here are a few things I think you should consider if you what to add them to your underwear repertoire:
- First and foremost is you. If you like them, wear them. If it feels fun or valuable to put on a thong, do it. Do not let people in the gym or your partner shame you. If it is your partner, maybe you’ve got the wrong man or woman in your life, or hopefully, your pride and enthusiasm for thongs can become contagious.
- The make and design matter. In 10 or more years of trying various different styles and makers, the thongs you choose to wear do matter. And I do feel you get what you pay for. A poorly made thong can be uncomfortable and binding. A well-made thong can make you feel great all day – supported, sexy, comfortable, and self-aware. There are definitely better brands of thongs out there, and there are also a variety of different cuts. Over the years I’ve found Body Aware and a few other brands I like, but that also came from trying a lot of different designers. It can be fun to do, and you can think of it as a little experiment!
- The fabric is extremely important! A good thong should fit snuggly, but not be binding. And a good thong should not only hold its shape all day, but it should also hold up through repeated washing and use. The fabric is also a large part of the look and can be a fun thing to see in the mirror and share with your partner.
- And the last thing, it’s fun! Thongs are with you all day, really in a way that I think no other underwear choice is. The snug fit and cut of the fabric will stick with you all day (no pun intended!) and can truly give a little bounce and play to your step.
At this point, I think I have more thongs than I do any other style of underwear. If you’ve never tried them, I hope I have something here to give you a little encouragement! And if you do try them out, please come back and share your experiences with me here! If you already wear them, I’d love to hear what you think too.
Signing off!
-Brian
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Bonjour a vous tous , j’adore les strings , mais je n’en portent pas tous les jours , je portent aussi des culottes et toutes autres modèles , ou une superpositions de touts , aux chois suivants mon humeur du jours , suis aux anges . Cordialements Yvon
I first was stuck growing up in those tight whites, and hated them. After a long search and as the years past finally, and I’m dating myself between the adult novelty store, then finally finally no more fitted boxer briefs, I wore those under my uniforms in EMS, hot as baking the junk in an oven. Finally a company came out with a jock-like thong and since I don’t like something riding up my crack this is PERFECT, and to tell the truth when I was married she didn’t really care for them but I told her clearly its MY BODY I have different anatomy and different needs for function and comfort, plus furthermore if she didn’t like it she didn’t need to look! Thankfully she left and now I’m a free man to pursue my life my way, my style.
All the comments were straight on my point. I wear thongs most of the time and I feel confident about it. I always smile when someone says you can’t wear them. It’s really up to the person that’s wearing them. It’s your money, your body, your life. To the people out there complaining about somebody’s underwear just mind your own business. To the wives/gf it’s your turn to do the staring. In a time of fighting for equality of life we still hold people back for something as trivial as underwear. No it doesn’t make you gay your DNA does. So to all the women out there who say men are taking over women’s underwear, men already wore thongs. And ladies back then wore boxers also called bloomers. In ending don’t judge unless you want to be judged. I think I read that somewhere.
I fully concur with Ryan and his desire that we all be allowed to wear what makes us happy, without judgement, especially from our significant others. I grew up in the time of men’s briefs being basically tighty whities, which struck me as ugly and heavy, with the ridiculous opening in the front. When they later came out with men’s lightweight cotton bikini briefs (Jockey I believe) and in a few colors like navy and red, I was in heaven. Men’s thongs were still for the future, but at least having some choice in underwear was wonderful. I think we should thank and support these old established companies like BodyAware for continually pushing the envelope and helping to change perceptions as to what men can wear.
When I was in my early 20s I bought some bikini briefs from a department store and I think that opened the door for me trying new styles of underwear. As I live in a quite rural area I had limited options when it came to finding male underwear other than Cotton boxer shorts. I initially resorted to buying some women’s thongs and wore them for a bit, but was quickly chastised by my first wife for doing so. I felt out of place because I had found underwear I liked and wanted to wear, but because it was out of the norm it wasn’t accepted in my home.
I ended up finding some male thongs at an adult boutique and also Joe Boxer made some thongs that could be purchased at department stores. I wore these for a short while before once again being chastised by the first wife. This caused me to feel like I was dumb for wanting to wear the type of underwear I liked. If girls got to wear fun styles, why couldn’t I?
Fast forward through the unpleasantries of divorce and moving on to meeting my wife. She has been very supportive of my thong wearing habits and encouraged me to wear them. I think knowing that I have her supporting me helps me to be confident enough to wear them, both in public and private.
I enjoy wearing thong bikinis on the beach, and while my wife doesn’t necessarily love the idea of me being “on display” while I’m on the beach, she tolerates it and joins me on occasion.
I am now in my early 40s and enjoy wearing minimal swimwear and underwear and look forward to meeting other guys of all orientations that do as well. My hope is that I can encourage other guys to wear whatever type of underwear that makes them happy without fear of repercussions from anyone else. I also hope that if anyone has a spouse or partner who likes the same type of underwear/swimwear that they encourage them and don’t put them down or make fun of them for their interest.